Promise Rings

A question for the women: If you were giving the milk away for free how would you correct it?

Short of moving out.

For those who do no know what I’m talking about – If a man can have the milk for free, why would he buy the cow? A woman that lives with, cooks, cleans, cares for, pleasures and even procreates while not married with the hopes of getting married is giving all the benefits of marriage away without the promise of a commitment.

So, if you were in this situation and you wanted a commitment, but you were fiscally unable to move out on your own and in no position to demand a ring on your finger at that moment, how would you fix it?
I love KiwiEyes answer!

Also – this isn’t personal, I’ve seen people constantly tell other questioners that they’re giving the milk away for free and to stop without any explanation of how they are supposed to and keep the relationship in tact.

How important s sex in a relationship?

Okay men and women tell the truth can you have a relationship with someone without sex being an issue? I’m going to be honest:I’m a 29 year old virgin so sex is definetly a no-no until I see a ring on my finger. I’m proud of my choice. It’s tough for me to be one esp in this dating day and age. I’ve gone out with men and it was obvious where they wanted the date to go, and when I would stand my ground and say “no” they disappeared. I’m glad they showed their true colors, but it still hurt. I’m more than just a notch on someone’s bed. I made a promise to myself and GOD, to remain one, until marriage. How do men respond to that? How do I even tell a man that? I know I can be a great girlfriend, I’ve just never had the opportunity to be one. I really want to know because I’ve never been in a relationship and I don’t want to lead a guy on. Is that what’s expected in a relationship? Is sex a mandatory part of the package? Please answer truthfully and i wouldn’t mind hearing about past experiences!!!!! Oh yeah another question what’s some good advice for a first time kisser?
Thanks for the support. I’ve kissed a guy, but it was only one guy, and that was about 4 years ago!

His other girlfriends informed me he is cheating on all of us! Advice?

I am having doubts about moving forward with him and getting more serious. What Should I do?

My man (39) and I (32) have been together for a bit over a year. WE don’t spend every night together-he is busy and sometimes I am too. We went on vacation together last month and he gave me a promise ring and said he wants to marry me.
A couple of weeks ago, I got an email from two girls (Christina and Ellen, ages 30 and 28 respectively), describing a story about them and my guy in detail. Christina told me they were exclusive for almost 2 years and they broke up 2 months ago (two weeks before he gave me the promise ring!!!) Also, that for the past almost 2 years as well, he was visiting Ellen every couple of months in MIami and having a fullblown exclusive relationship with her as well.
. She said the reason she is writing is to inform me that he has been cheating on her, me, and a third girl in Florida who he visits every couple of months as well. The Florida girl (Ellen) found her through her Myspace and let her know about everything!! He had told her that he didn’t have a myspace and when she dumped him plugged in his email address and found his myspace and Christina on it.They have both dumped him. He was telling them about the future too, taking them to the same places he was taking me and having the one that lives here over his house. She described the night she caught him with such detail-that the girl was on his red rug by his black leather couch, her pocketbook on his car magazines by the side table ( so much detail).

She sent me pics of them together lovey dovey, all his texts to her that she uploaded-some explicitly sexual (with time and dates from last summer till this past June 2009!!!(About 100 texts).

. Also she sent me an online profile that belongs to him on a dating site PLUS an email from the dating site confirming he has the profile active still!!

She even told me that she had seen a text and missed call from a Crystal on his phone (me) and that he told her it was a girl with buddy was dating. On top of it, she knew I had gone to London in March somehow-she said that he told her “his buddy and his gf Crystal were in London.” I can’t believe he would say I was dating his friend!!!!

What should I do now that he gave me the promise ring and says he wants a future?? But 2 weeks after the other one dumped him?

I mean I got all this info-pics, texts with times and dates from him till recently, even the myspace convo where th FLorida girl found her asking her about him and if “she knew him.”

I am sick to my stomach. On his bday he was with her during the day, got presents from her, then at night did the same with me. Three days later got gifts in FLorida from the other one!!! This girl Christina even knew that on July 10th his family friend (67 years old) was over his house to drive him to the airport and she says she brought lunch over for the both.

. So many things make sense-gifts in his house from her like picture frames, ties, tie clips, vases, clothes etc. AND from the girl in Florida.

Is this guy a player? What should I do? Part of me wants to say “He is with me and MAYBE PREFERS ME OVER OTHERS AND LOVES ME…” but then again why was he with the others too?? He might do it if we get married to right?

Oh, the girl said she found my EMAIL ADDRESS on a list of female contacts by his pc one night doing her homeworkd for a class when he was sleeping.
She even had my cell phone number that she wrote in the email.

I mean it CANNOT just be a jealous ex with all this information as much as my heart wants to believe that. How on earth would she know all this-basically all the things I lived with him etc.
She also said that he takes all the women the the Hilton Hotel in Chicago and they meet his friends Mark, Jean, and Justin. (I went there with him this past summer).

What would you all do?? Dump him? Because a part of me wants to say “he wants me more than the others.”

Help!!!

My girlfriend doesn’t love me (generic eh?)?

I have been dating a wonderful girl who will be referred to as True, well I and true met off of a dating site, after talking to her on the phone I assumed she was fat, because she sounded fat. It didn’t matter I was very attracted to her personality. We met near her house which is roughly 60 miles away, I spent the night the first night, we made love the night that followed and jumped into the relationship as what I would deem as ridiculously quickly. It felt right, everyone has said that before, but it really did we were really close very quickly and a couple times when we made love we were on such a similar wavelength we could read each others thoughts. I then proceed a few weeks later to give her a promise ring.(I am so in love with her)(AWWAWWWW MUSHYMUSHY) Anyways, we have alternated fairly well between her coming over here and I over there, makes it easier to alternate.

Her Mom: Dating a guy we will call Pushover, while she dates Pushover regularly (who believes he is the only guy in her life) she also dates a guy name corvette guy, and snake man at least once each and bangs snake guy(the noises will haunt me until I die from carbon monoxide poisoning in my garage) Also fucks a married guy named Big-armed-Mexican :O, fucks him whenever she is horny. She has been buying pot and cigarettes for her daughter at least since she was 16 and smokes it with her. This woman wont even tell her parents she smokes because they are very judgmental , I hear they are great grandparents though and really take care of there family, and her mom also takes care of her household and daughter very well. She is very judgmental of me and thinks I’m trash, I think. She walks around in her panties alot. -_- My vision is now darkening from the sheer mental problems that are developing from seeing this. What her mother does is her business , but just giving you background info.

And a note of what kind of upbringing I’ve had, before I give you my dilema.

Raised by my mom and grandmother, loving household, didnt know the “F-Word” until I was 17, waited till I was 18 to have sex, joined the army. My mom only had sex with one person her entire life, she is a very devout christian. I met my dad when I was 19 or 20. The worst thing she ever called me was a booger. In anger, I’m serious. Isn’t that a sheltered existence?

WELKELELELLLLL MY problem is; True made a point to tell me that she felt I was really special (^.~) and proceeded to show me that she deleted her dating account( I deleted mine a week before) I then a few days later told her i deleted mine, to let her believe she was leading the trend so to speak. We had each others passwords for each others emails, not a big deal, well I noticed she had logged into a dating site, and had known she went to a singles meeting near where she lived a week ago, I wasn’t too worried but, the previous weekend she had been distant, i attributed it to stress.(shit happens then you die, sometimes we get moody) Well the next weekend she was incredibly distant also and she just wasn’t interested in sex (on a sidenote our sex was amazzzazzzing)((like KABOOM))(((Like oh my F9436754 mc squared)) ~~ So i asked her about it , because I just figured she wasn’t interested anymore, I told her that I was interested in the relationship we agreed on and if things moved to quickly or she wasn’t ready to be a one man guy we could have an open-relationship, I also told her that I didn’t have eyes for anyone else either and that if it was my choice, or whatever. Thhhhaaat I would want to just stay with her, she agreed, I was really stressed out because…This woman…She is like a wife to me in my mind, that’s my mindset, to take care of her and complete her, and make her happy anyway I could(I was raised by two women, don’t make fun of me >..<, next week she did it again made two more profiles, one was an obvious fake meant to bait me, so I asked her about it, and she reemed me out and called me sketchy.. I asked her why she was playing games, and tried the best I could to let her know I’m a mature 22 year old I don’t play games, it isn’t fair. She then said I was reading all her emails, to be honest, yeah I was logging into her email because she said she didn’t care, when I was bored I was going down the list and unsubscribing her from various emails that were obviously spam. I asked her before if it bother her if I had her email stuffz and she said “No I don’t have anything to hide” Somewhere in the conversation I said well you have my passwords and she said “Well there is never anything there, your probably deleting it all”…Which makes me assume, well your logging into my email too? If we had a mutual understanding that we didn’t care, and told each other our passwords I’m kinda thinking uhhhhh? Well I….. I was jus

Would a womanizer of 20 years change after marriage-serial cheating?

Will he change his cheating ways if we get married?

Hi, I am 32 and with a man who is turning 40 soon. We have been together for a year and a couple of months. On average we hang out once a week but lately we have been spending more time together (the past couple of months), so for a year it was only once a week.

Now, I know this sounds naive of me, but I recently found out that he had3 more “exclusive relationships” of the same intensity during the time I was with him. Some were about 7 months and two were 2 years long. The women dumped him because of the cheating from what I heard. He also had a profile on a dating site but stopped using it when I found out.

I spoke to his uncle and he told me he has always been this way (for the 20 years he has been dating), that he always had many women and does not settle down, and has had a cheating problem. He had told me he only has had 4 relatoinships but his uncle said there have been about 200 women in his life, and that at one point when he was with me that he would see 5 different women during the week, many of them great girls for marriage. ALSO, Back in the spring of 2009 he went and hit on this younger girl (saying he is looking for marriage, that he is single, and that he will wait for her for a long time if she was not ready). HE SEEMS TO TELL MANY GIRLS THE SAME THING!

THe thing is I kind of push for the idea of marriage because I like him a lot, he is successful, professional, and knows how to take a woman out for a good time. I put my foot down and told him to stop looking at other women. But the history is my concern. He seems to have stopped now for like a month or so, maybe it’s because he got caught?? Or is he truly changed? LIke I said, his whole life he has had this problem, now he got dumped by all the other girls and spends more time with me.

Point is, he is now only with me and we took two vacations together. I went over his place one day unnnanouced because his folks were there and I had never met them. He introduced me as “a friend” but sometimes tells me he thinks about the future.

At his age, isn’t it possible he will settle down with me-now that all the others are gone?
OR, why is it that he never did settle down so far if he has met so many women?

I just feel more calm because ever since I found out about his cheating he doesn’t log on to the dating site anymore, BUT HE STILL has the profile -did not delete it. I try to go over his house all the time so we can spend much of our time together after all of this that I found out. He seems to be behaving now. Should I trust it??

I mean,, I did get a promise ring